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Organic Unconscious Therapy™ in Phoenix, AZ
Forgetting Your Ex has developed a life-changing process called Organic Unconscious Therapy for individuals getting through a breakup. We use the descriptive acronym OUT when discussing the process with potential clients because that is the ultimate goal. We have a saying, “We will get you OUT of your problem or your problem OUT of you.” Our objective is to get you out of your stuck state to a more fluid space where you’ll experience greater freedom and unrestricted choices. Ultimately, we will restore happiness in your environment and life.
We’ll Use the Right Combination of Therapies
With more than three decades of experience in psychology, we draw from 10 different modalities using a friendly, conversational style in a caring setting to ensure you know you are being heard. Sessions may include:
- Psychology
- Family Therapy
- Gestalt Therapy
- Clinical and Medical Hypnotherapy
- Linguistics
- Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Provocative Change Works
- Advanced Conversational Hypnosis
- Motivational Conversational Hypnosis
- General Semantics
A Deliberate Approach to Move Forward
During your supportive therapy sessions, your practitioner will use verbal and nonverbal communication to evoke responses. Using non-specific and indirect or conversational hypnosis and stories will create fluid states that elicit changes in the way you think about things. A key component in healing is identifying signs of trance or avoidance in you. We refer to these topics you want to avoid discussing as blind spots and will use humor to address them lightheartedly to bring them out into the open. Unlike traditional therapy approaches, the practitioner will create movement in the session and may even speak for large portions of the meeting. The purpose is to create an environment where you feel like you’re chatting with an old friend and not just responding to a therapist’s questions how you believe you should.
Why Overcoming a Breakup on Your Own Is So Hard
It’s no surprise that getting over a breakup is extremely challenging, and it’s common to think that the adverse effects of a separation will lessen over time. But because the changes that come with developing a relationship, such as moving in together, vacationing, or combining finances, are so significant, the breakup brings a considerable lifestyle change. According to social psychologists, couples invest so much in each other that they become psychologically connected, which causes the brain to react to breakups in maladaptive ways, and the brain perceives emotional pain as physical pain. For this reason, those going through a separation may experience emotional pain so severe it feels like it hurts.
The Reason Organic Unconscious Therapy Works
During therapy, we’ll look at your maladaptive coping strategies and redirect behavior to develop more adaptive strategies, such as problem-focused coping, self-reflection, and practicing relaxation techniques. Together, we will lay out your negative emotions and identify them, change irrational thoughts, set realistic, achievable goals for your future, and clearly define the strategies to achieve those goals. The key to the support you’ll receive from your therapist that you won’t likely get from supportive family and friends is a neutral perspective to help you understand who you are, what you want in your life, and how to build self-esteem after a breakup.
Tips for Dealing With Old Relationship Wounds
Old wounds might be fueling your emotions if the conflict is constant and always feels the same, your emotional reaction to something within the relationship is intense and out of proportion with whatever caused it, or your response is difficult to shift. Here are some tools to use until you can get help from a professional.
- Be Honest – Honesty is the key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship, be honest with yourself and with each other.
- Be Present in the Moment – Listen to the other person and be there for them. We can make sure that they know how important they are to us and show them that we care about them.
- Focus on the Good in Your Partner – Don’t turn a blind eye to what bothers you, but when you want to be in a happier relationship with this person, you’ll smooth over conflicts if you focus on the good of your partner rather than the bad.
It’s Time to Get the Problem Out
Is it possible to heal the wounds of previous relationships? Of course. There are two primary components of the leftover scar tissue: an inability to resolve the ending of the relationship and a lingering hesitation to love again and risk being hurt. Old wounds are at play whether we like to believe it or not, and this causes an often-unconscious anxiety and fear about the very thing we desire; relational intimacy. Taking a “victim stance” to the prospect of new love or simultaneously being available to potential partners while also pushing them away are just a few of the psychological defense mechanisms employed by people who have been hurt. It’s time to get these OUT.